If you live with Chronic pain, you learn how to lie... a lot! People ask how you are doing, you answer 'fine' 'no problems' etc. and you learn how to make people believe that answer. You know by their response they don't really want to hear that you hurt... or that they think you are just 'playing it up' and begging for attention. Some even think you're a 'hypochondriac'. So you lie.
Sometimes you try to believe that answer yourself. But YOU KNOW, you know it's a lie. Sometimes, those closest to you know, they can see through the glaze in your eyes, and they just know. Most of the time, they learn not to ask, just to try to make your day little easier.
SO if you know someone living in chronic pain... sometimes it's better NOT to ask, you probably won't get a straight answer! Just try to make their day easier... a little bit better... by not making them lie to you. Try saying something positive, like 'you look great today, you must be doing something right!' or... 'those new meds must be helping.... you seem a little lighter on your feet today'. Something to boost their ego, if this IS a bad day.... this MIGHT be the only positive thing their brain hears today! I live in chronic pain.
Today, is better than yesterday... AND THAT is NOT a lie!
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