Roller Coaster Ride

We've all been on a ride, at some time in our lives,  that both thrilled us and scared the bejeebers out of us. Marriage is one of those rides! The ups and downs...the fast turns and slow climbs during difficult times. If you can survive the first tough years...I promise you...it does not get any better!! There may be fewer lows and more highs... but it is still work! AND if you are so lucky to make it past 30-40 + years...you would think it would be easier, we'll, guess what? That's about the time retirement happens. In some cases it's a good thing but it also means more time spent together! It's important that you find things you enjoy doing together as well as having much needed 'alone time' or ' girls (boys) night out! If not, the pressure will build up, resentment will set in and you'll be walking on egg shells. I'm there now... the honeymoon phase ( the first few weeks of my husbands retirement) was great! We took a 3 week camping trip across country and thouroughly enjoyed the entire trip! It's been 4 months now and the newness of 24-7 has worn off! So, we are constantly walking on egg shells...on a roller coaster ride... however you want to put it. But we are still very much in love and we will survive! Just as we did the first 40+ years of our marriage...that which doesn't kill us will only make us stronger. And, this too, shall pass... we'll make it, it's just going to take some getting used to and creating a new normal for us. I'm sure there will be more cross words and more make up sex. And hopefully we'll find a balance of together time vs alone time!